So many women, and men, have been bred by our parents to accept what is given us. “Don’t be greedy. Take what life gives you. Don’t be so uppity. Give thanks, and be happy.”
I find it quite intriguing that the people who so often recite these mantras never do what they advocate. Moreover they do not appear to be content with their lives.
As mothers, and of daughters we must remain vigilant that we do not overtly and covertly, in speech and in silence, urge our daughters to settle.
Much is said about women making sure we do not settle for what’s presently available in the arena of life mates when we choose to marry and individual.
I would suggest that by the time any person gets to the point of choosing to marry a person whom they do not love, fearing they will never meet and marry a person whom they love, they have developed a pattern of accepting what life throws at them.
The ability to hold out for what touches your heart requires that you know what it feels like to have your stroked, and that you know the value of listening to your passion.
We generally associate passion with fire, and heat like inspiration.
But passion is often quiet, though deep and substantive. It is also rooted in the ability to know what you want.
Many women, not unlike men, are well-acquainted with that which we do not want. But what is that will stir our hearts, move our souls, speak to the depths of our imagination?
In that women have here-to-fore experienced the ability to choose and create the kind of lifestyle we want to live, it is more important than ever we, the mothers of our daughters of the 21st century assist them in separating them from the noise of life, help them find ways to silence the chatter of the clicking sound made when typing on the iPad, computer or more often than not, cell phone.
We must find our way, as their mothers, into the silence, carve a path and holding their hands, lead our daughters to the holiest of holies, the sacred canyon of their hearts. And once there sit with them and bask in the unique relationship we experience with them as individuals who can not only serve as a conduit for life to enter the world, but have the choice not to.
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