During the past year I have noticed an increasing number of Internet stories/articles reporting the murders and /or more often murder-suicides wherein a parent has killed the spouse and their children.
Men and fathers are usually the assailants for cases involving a murdered spouse.
Children are usually the victims when mothers commit homicide on members of their immediate families.
The act of any parent or adult killing a child is horrendous.
And yet, as the mother of three daughters, I am most taken when a mother kills her daughter (s).
As a psychotherapist I a to ask, “What
Moments after a child exits the women, the obstetrician, or midwife cuts the umbilical cord linking mother to child.
Male children enter a journey of maturation into adulthood that ideally includes a father, or male guiding and supporting them.
As with all children she ushers into life, the mother of a female infant lays the baby upon her chest, nestles and feeds her, but unlike with sons, the mother serves as her daughter’s guide from birth into womanhood.
Who better than a man to teach and nurture a boy into manhood?
Likewise, none but women can best assist a girl in navigating the wilds of growing into a wise, compassionate, and prudent woman.
And yet, theory and reality, as with many life dimensions, often diverge.
That for which we hope often gives way to the probabilities based upon the facts of our present reality.
Many women and mothers have raised sons into excellent and wonderful men.
Likewise many men have nurtured daughters into women any parent or person would be proud to call daughter.
And yet one fact remains.
The umbilical cord attaching mother to daughter,