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Of Myths, Beliefs and The Integrity of Our Intent …

We’re not encouraged to say, “I’m sorry,” in America, even when we are wrong, have made a mistake and our mistake has injured another, and or even ourselves.

I’m always taken with how much we often count the need to forgive ourselves for past mistakes when discussing those for whom we would do well to hold compassion.

It’s as if American societal beliefs hold to an erroneous myth that life can be somehow lived in a clear and uninterrupted straight line, that we can avoid any and all detours, those erected by others and those we might take should events become too complicated.

From where did we get this belief, never mind how faulty?

The degree to which we claim to be a progressive society

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Of Actions, Integrity and Trusting Our Choices…

In stating, “…mothers and daughters cannot serve as best friends to the other…,” Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer add in an excerpt from Too Close for Comfort: Questioning the Intimacy of Today’s New Mother-Daughter Relationship , that the …basic question… a mother must answer is: “…Do you trust your daughter to be an independent and self-sufficient woman? Can you support her in making choices and doing things differently from how you would do them?”

The answer a mother offers lies within her ability or inability to trust

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Of Dukkha, Suffering and Achieving Freedom Through the Boundaries of Relationship…

The Buddha said, “Life is dukkha.”

Most Americans and English speaking peoples translate this into suffering.

But dukkha, a word that originates from Pali, one form of Sanskrit, means so much more.

It its most essential form dukkha address three aspects of the challenges humans face in our efforts to survive and thrive

The pain and suffering of life.

The inevitability of change demanding adaptation and evolution.

The cause-and-effect, interrelatedness

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Of Writing, Integrity and The Company We Keep…

“When we set out to judge—ridicule pillory, condemn, sneer at or…impugn our characters–we fail at our objective. Instead of making our characters look bad we make ourselves suspect.”
—-Peter Selgin, 179 Ways to Save a Novel: Matters of Vital Concern to Fiction Writers

We are known by the company we keep. In the case of a writer, that company consists of our characters and our attitude towards them.

Simply put, what kind of person would choose to writer 60,000 words, or there about, centered on a person or persons our words demonstrate that we dislike, hold little or no respect for, or even loathe?

Would you as a reader trust anything this writer has to say?

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“The House”, Kindle, i-Pads and Nooks…

In the next 3 months my second book, a novel, The House will be available for purchase. I say the next 3 months because in the vein of remaining honest, I am not certain what exact date this latest edition of The House will be available for consumers to purchase.

I must remain true to establish integrity. Integrity means more to an entrepreneur than gold.

And in working to publish The House I have become an entrepreneur.

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Smog Checks, The Publishing World, and Integrity…

Editors encounter problems and resistance when after stating a manuscript needs work then proceed to explain how they can abandon, or as is often the case, assist with developmental editing in addition to providing copy edits.

This situation resembles the gas station mechanic who after stating your car failed smog inspection then says, “And I can fix it the problem, make your car pass inspection.”

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