Relationships

Of American Children, The Matsikenga, and Self-Absorption …

Elizabeth Kolbert asks in her New Yorker article, Spoiled Rotten, “Why do kids rule the roost?”

More specifically she poses the question, “Why are American kids so spoiled?”

On spending several months living with and observing the Matsigenka tribe of the Peruvian Amazon, Carolina Izquierdo, a medical anthropologist at UCLA, grew impressed with the helpfulness and responsibility of Yanira, a six-year-old girl and member of a family within the Matsigenka tribe of 12,000.

Dr. Izquierdo witnesses Yanira’s self-less behavior, what some might call daily altruism, when she and Yanira accompanied a third family of the Matsigenka on an expedition down the Urubamba River for gathering leaves from the kapashi palm tree used to build roofs for the Matsigenka’s houses.

During the trip, Yanira, not a member of the family she and Dr. Izquierdo had accompanied, assisted others in performing daily chores and tasks without having to be asked.
Yanira made herself useful and all the while, Kolbert writes, “ … asked for nothing …”

This ability to give assistance without request, and in so doing,

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Of Vipassana, Abandoned Dreams, and “The Map of True Places” …

I ended my last blog asking readers, “Are you a Tiger Mom? Cheetah Mom? A fierce feline mother of great prowess? If so, what is your story?
What hopes and dreams do you hold for your daughters and/or sons?
What are your passions?
Are and if so, how are you living them out?”

On reading the last three questions I realized that I had segued into new territory.

The hopes and dreams we hold for our children lie

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Of Hopes, Dreams, and Cheetah Mamas …

Now a mother of three daughters, a licensed psychotherapist and an author, I still lean back in awe at how much emphasis individuals of certain cultures, African-American included, place upon the success of our children.

Some weekends ago I attended the Senior Recognition Ceremony held each year by hundreds of Jack-n-Jill Chapters across the country, honoring the children of mother-members who having and preparing to graduate high school will in less than three months, leave for college.

Conversations during the meal, as usual, included

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Of Tiger Mamas, The American Dream and The Samurai’s Garden …

The recent nuptials Mark Zuckerberg to long-time girl friend, Priscilla Chan, drew the attention of Yin Wai, who in her article, Priscilla Chan Is Every Tiger Mother’s Dream, writes, “ … World Journal, one of the largest newspapers serving the Chinese-speaking population in North America, posted details about the nuptials, following up with a translation of the piece that ran on BuzzFeed Shift comparing Chan to Kate Middleton. Apple Daily, a major Hong Kong news organization, also covered it. Should any Chinese mom have missed the papers, Chinese TV news programs seized on the story, too, with every reporter quick to call out Harvard, UCSF Medical School, and the groom’s billionaire status. …”

The article, while detailing

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Of Bloggers, Mothers’ Work, and ‘Ann Romney and Me’ …

A former prosecuting attorney, now full-time mom and blog host, recently shared that many mothers with promising careers, had upon giving birth transformed their job skills into home businesses that allow them establish a base for present and future income, and continue pursing our passion, while maintaining the ability to shape our work schedules around our work that we equally love, that of wife and mother to our husbands and children.

Like the former attorney now mom and blogger, I, a

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Of Mom-Preneurs, The American Dream, and ‘Much Ado About Nothing’ …

The host of a blog addressing the experience of parenting recently shared with me that she had recognized what might be a trend in how women solved the dilemma of how to continue working but in a way that leaves us feeling that our work has not intruded upon our desires, fervent as those to work, to attend to our children and husbands in a way that leaves us equally as satisfied.

This trend she speaks of is that of mothers creating our own careers at which we work from home.

In short she’s describing what Scott Pratt, an author

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Of Elisabeth Badinter, Slavery, and The Choice to Work Full-time as a Wife and Mother …

Perhaps the eleven Secret Service Agents and nine military personnel who engaged in unbecoming behavior down in Cartagena, Colombia, that put themselves in danger, not to mention others under their care, felt exploited, and most unconsciously.

We’re often told of the great service these agents provide our Presidents.

We’re also led to believe that the tasks they carry out involve much bravado and that the work is exciting, nothing short of glamorous.

Their recent behaviors speak otherwise, actions I am certain

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