I now understand, as a licensed and working psychotherapist, that beneath anger exists hurt. We grow angry and we hurt when someone or something transgresses our boundaries.
And while small amounts of frustration lead to growth and creativity, continual frustration indicates a seething bed of continual anger.
Learning something about a mother, who was not forward in sharing about herself allows deeper insight into those hidden aspects of ourselves as her daughter.
The yearning to know more about a mother who has hidden herself, kept secret her inner life, speaks to our desire to connect, both with our mother and ourselves.
If our mother has died, like mine who passed on nearly two decades ago, we have lost a most direct line of knowledge. But all is not forsaken. Not by a long shot.
The very fact that our mother died keeping all close to her chest speaks volumes. It tells us that we
I suspect that much like the authors, actresses and actors, receive payment for their services in much the same fashion, and timing as Scott Pratt describes in a post on his blog, The Writer’s Predicament.
He writes: “ … And the advance money? The fifty thousand? This is how they [the publisher] doled it out. Twelve thousand five hundred on signing the contract, $7,500 upon final acceptance of the manuscript, and
The reality of publishing is that it is difficult to make a profit in this business.
And why does one want to make a profit?
Because editors need to be paid, it takes money to print copies of a book, and most importantly, authors need food, shelter, and health insurance, none of which are cheap, if we are to write entertaining stories.
When publishing companies agree to print book, the writer must deliver and on time, lest the publisher demands
Posted by Anjuelle Floyd | Filed under Relationships
The decisive question for man is:
Is he related to something infinite or not?
That is the telling question of his life.
In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted.
In our relationships to other men, too, the crucial question is whether an element of boundlessness is expressed in the relationship.
–Carl Gustav Jung on Jung in “Memories, Dreams, Reflections” by Carl Jung
I recently heard a podcast, Relationship Revelation, given by Deborah and Lyle Dukes on Chocolate Pages hosted by Pam Perry.
During the interview Deborah Dukes addressed the importance of relationships and how our interactions reveal not only who we are at the core and the essence of our personality, but also how we interact with God.
“You will [discover] what is inside you… [whether] you [have the capacity to] love… when relating to others. …Your relationships with others mirror your relationship with God. The way we treat other people is an indicator, is a guide, [to the nature of] our relationship how with God. [God said,] ‘It is not good for [an individual] to be alone.'”
We need others.
Man cannot live on bread alone. Nor can woman.
Much of what Deborah and Lyle discuss forms the cornerstone of Deborah’s assertions in her book,
Working as both a wife of nearly 29 years, and mother of 3, has prepared me in various ways to accomplish the work of a fiction writer.
Working as a wife and mother requires a lot of what an Islamic Imam described as grinding pepper.
Grinding pepper, from the perspective of the imam encompasses those activities that we here in the west describe as comprising the bane of our existence–mindless tasks, that we view as disrespectful of our intelligence and that devalue our worth as a person.
The world banal implies a lack of uniqueness.
Something that is banal possesses no originality.
It is like the wheel that begs for no reinvention, rather more unique and original ways of bringing a deeper level of presence and attention to the task(s) at hand–tasks that when practiced with a presence of mind and heart sharpen our skills and artistry in all areas of life, yield an original creation, and transform us as individuals.
“Imitate form, not content. The tendency to imitate form and not content seems to relate directly to talent.”
–Peter Selgin, 179 Ways to Save a Novel: Matters of Vital Concern to Fiction Writers
The present world of fiction sees many young writers interweaving the works of previous writers into the young author’s new creation.
I recently read an article about a young German writer who won an award for her work that had used large excerpts of a previous writer’s work in young novelist’s creation.