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Of Proximity, Self–Esteem and the Ability to Stand Separate and Distinct…

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Vanencia Jaquia Lynch, an undergraduate student majoring in psychology at Xavier University, New Orleans, Louisiana, demonstrates a significant relationship between the psychological aspects of illusory superiority and attachment.

Ms. Lynch discovered this connection in a study she conducted, the details of which she discusses in “Mother-Daughter Relationships in Adulthood: Attachment, Self-Esteem and Illusory Superiority.” (XULA neXUS, Xavier University of Louisiana, Undergraduate Research Journal, Volume 9, Issue 1)

Lynch defines illusory superiority as

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Of Mothers, The Illusion of Control, and Training Yourself Out of a Job…

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When I was a child my mother demanded 100% obedience.
Did I give it to her?
No.
Neither did I agree with everything she said or believed.

Many of the lessons she taught and that I employ have kept me in good stead as an adult, wife and mother. I thoroughly appreciate then.

Yet, I have often wished my mother could have supported me more in standing upon my own ground.
Better said, I would have appreciated immensely my mother supporting me in the areas where we differed in our perspectives on an issue.

When our youngest child reached five-years-old, I began

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Of Food, Proximity, and the Need for Choice…

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Interactions between mothers and daughters hold many complexities.

Every mother is someone’s daughter. And every daughter has a mother.

The nature or lack of interactions between mothers and their daughter influence and affect a minutia of interpersonal aspects for the daughter and reflect upon the many strands that connect a daughter’s mother with her mother, the grandmother.

Observing a mother and her daughter can reveal a history and lineage of interactions from the line of women connected to and whose lives had descended into the existence of a mother and her daughter.

Weight offers an additional aspect of a woman or girl’s life that sheds light onto the nature

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Of Parents, The Nativity and The Need for Caution….

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Lori Bryant Woolridge shares in her recent article, “Dear Santa, All I Want for Christmas,” at the Huffington Post, “…the holiday season…with its emphasis on family traditions, gift exchanges, and togetherness can be tough for single ladies because it’s one of those times of the year (like New Year’s and Valentines) that when being alone can feel pretty lonely.”

No more than with single parents is this need to connect and interact with a level of profound togetherness than with the single mother or single father.

In her blog post, Sad Mommy vs. Daughter Wars, Zondra Hughes asks, asks, “…How can we end these wars…mommy vs. daughter wars…a sad reality that continue to plague our families…”

Where does a woman, or man’s, need for companionship and intimacy slide into abandonment of responsibility as a parent when she or he, the mother, or father, enters into relationship with a person who poses threats of physical and emotional harm to the woman or man’s child?

North Carolina courts, sentenced 43 year-old Elisa Baker,

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Of Mothers, Daughters and the Wounds That Shape Us…

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Injury to the mother-daughter relationship rents a profound wound, and gives rise to serious strain between both daughters and mothers.

Does my mother love me?

Why does my daughter hate me so much?

Why doesn’t she love me? A question often asked by both daughter and mother.

And for the daughter, “I mama doesn’t love me, when who will? Or who can?”

These questions and more along with the associated feelings of worthlessness,

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Radio Show | DeAnne Sherman

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Teacher, DeAnne M. Sherman discusses Finding My Way, I’m Not Alone and My Story, books written with her daughter, Michelle, a psychologist, in their mission to empower families affected by issues of war, trauma and/or mental illness.

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Dear John, A Daughter’s Wish and Moments of Awakening…

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My daughter recently stated that she hopes that my husband and I live to a ripe old age and that we die together, much like Noah and Allie in the movie based on The Notebook, by Nicholas Sparks. My daughter had just finished reading Spark’s novel, now a movie, Dear John.

That’s the great thing about reading books. They awaken us to parts of ourselves, hopes dreams and wishes, and those held for us by loved ones.

That my daughter, not yet 25, could offer me such a gift I find astounding. Most children, and rightfully so, want their parents alive for as long as possible.

Saying this to my daughter, she responded with, “I can handle my life, take care of myself as long as I know that you and Daddy are together somewhere in the universe, even if I’m not with you.”

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