I think we want to know about our mothers, so we can know and understand ourselves better.
The problem is that everyone has secrets, even we, daughters, hold them.
Often what we ask and desire of our mothers we can and are least prepared to give our own daughters.
Is this because we are difficult persons?
I doubt it.
We, like all other humans, are afraid.
But what is so frightening about sharing (age appropriately) intimate knowledge of our personalities with out daughters?
I do not believe we
Not a day has passed during the three weeks since posting my last blog that I have not felt guilty for failing to hold to my schedule of blogging.
It is a promise I give to myself, and a responsibility I maintain as a published writer.
The nagging feeling that has haunted me now abates as I write this post.
But what occurs when life happens and disrupts our goals and the tasks we have set our energies to?
What do we do when
“If you are interested in something, you will focus on it, and if you focus attention on anything, it is likely that you will become interested in it.
Many of the things we find interesting are not so by nature, but because we took the trouble of paying attention to them.”
— Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
I saw two movies this weekend. Contagion, for the first time, and Colombiana for the 2nd.
Viewing a movie for the second time, much like reading a book, allows the opportunity to evaluate and inspect what either makes the story work, or remain vibrant in your mind, or the memories of its plot and characters, if you can recall them, slink into the recesses of the forgotten.
I was not excited at the thought of seeing Colombiana a second time.
Yet now as I write, I realize my hesitation came not from the quality of the movie itself, but quite the opposite.
The story of a young woman, who in losing her parents to a villainous killing at the age of 9, then seeking revenge, Colombiana is clearly a character driven story.
Contagion on the other hand, involves many characters whose roles work to tell the story of not a person, but rather display the effect of
Posted by Anjuelle Floyd | Filed under Relationships
The decisive question for man is:
Is he related to something infinite or not?
That is the telling question of his life.
In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted.
In our relationships to other men, too, the crucial question is whether an element of boundlessness is expressed in the relationship.
–Carl Gustav Jung on Jung in “Memories, Dreams, Reflections” by Carl Jung
I recently heard a podcast, Relationship Revelation, given by Deborah and Lyle Dukes on Chocolate Pages hosted by Pam Perry.
During the interview Deborah Dukes addressed the importance of relationships and how our interactions reveal not only who we are at the core and the essence of our personality, but also how we interact with God.
“You will [discover] what is inside you… [whether] you [have the capacity to] love… when relating to others. …Your relationships with others mirror your relationship with God. The way we treat other people is an indicator, is a guide, [to the nature of] our relationship how with God. [God said,] ‘It is not good for [an individual] to be alone.'”
We need others.
Man cannot live on bread alone. Nor can woman.
Much of what Deborah and Lyle discuss forms the cornerstone of Deborah’s assertions in her book,
I once had a client who said, “We [humans] consist of but pockets of time. Spend time on things that don’t matter-waste time–and you throw away yourself.”
As with life and pockets of time, humans also consist of a conglomeration of relationships, none so important as the one we hold with ourselves.
Despite all, we recognize and best come to know ourselves, who we are, our likes and dislikes, pet peeves and joys through interaction with others.
We can never truly come to understand some aspects of ourselves except by way of interaction with those outside ourselves.
Posted by Anjuelle Floyd | Filed under Articles and Essays
What creates setting, both physical and emotional?
And what goes into creating a setting that stimulates a reader to feel?
What is the challenge of creating a formative and transformative setting?
What needs to remain static and constant in a setting?
And what needs to cry out for change?
These questions point out the importance of setting and the challenge of meeting the needs that setting addresses in a story or novel.
John Truby, author of The Anatomy of Story: 22 Steps to Becoming a Masterful Storyteller, advises that the setting of a novel needs to include 2-3 separate and distinct places.
His belief debunks the idea that a good story needs to have a list of settings in order to sustain interest and hold the reader’s attention.
Posted by Anjuelle Floyd | Filed under Musings
It’s really hard to write. I’m traveling with my youngest.
I hated leaving home. And yet I felt stuck.
Not a good place to be as a writer.
And yet it happens.
I don’t experience writer’s block, as much as encountering periods wherein it is just hard to write. I lack the stamina to even get started.
I feel not excitement.
Ideas for a new story, ever how short, evade me.
Perhaps this is writer’s block.