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Of Daughters, Actions and Self-Awareness…

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“[D]aughters can model a great deal from a mother who is self-aware herself,” says Juanita Johnson in, Know Thyself First (Part 6 of Our Mothers, Ourselves: Mother-Daughter Relationships)

A storyteller and psychotherapist, who, along with her 27-year-old-daughter gives talks and workshops on the mother-daughter relationship, Johnson adds, “…I observe quite frequently that [a] mother knows so very little about her own self…[and instead] plac[es] way too much emphasis on how her daughter turns out rather than examining, ‘What [what she, the mother] do I know[s] about [her] self and how [she] feel[s] about [her]self…”

After reading this I immediately realized why I have felt such

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Of Health, Well-Being and A Mother’s Love…

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A new study, Mother’s Love Can Prevent Illness in Middle Age, at Brandeis University now suggests that, “…a mother’s love expressed each day keeps the doctor way, most particularly in mid-life.”

When examining children from poverty-stricken situations, researchers learned, and not too surprisingly, that these children grow up to become adults who suffer from numerous chronic illnesses. And yet there are those children who, despite coming from poor backgrounds, experience good physical health and mental well-being.

Why?

Bucking what I would call

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Of Actions, Integrity and Trusting Our Choices…

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In stating, “…mothers and daughters cannot serve as best friends to the other…,” Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer add in an excerpt from Too Close for Comfort: Questioning the Intimacy of Today’s New Mother-Daughter Relationship , that the …basic question… a mother must answer is: “…Do you trust your daughter to be an independent and self-sufficient woman? Can you support her in making choices and doing things differently from how you would do them?”

The answer a mother offers lies within her ability or inability to trust

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Of Breaths, Challenges and Handing Over the Reins…

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“…[M]others and daughters can have a close bond, but should never take it to the level of being best friends…” say Susan Morris Shaffer and Linda Perlman Gordon, co-authors of Too Close for Comfort: Questioning the Intimacy of Today’s New Mother-Daughter Relationship.

“A best friend is different than a mother-daughter relationship,” says Shaffer in her interview

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Of Mothers, Daughters, and The Honesty of Time…

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To work or not to work?

This is the question that plagues mothers across the world, particularly within Western societies.

The concern many mothers express is, “Am I hurting my child by returning to work or by working?”

Many studies performed in America conclude, regarding this question, that mothers do not harm our children by returning to work.

I recently saw an article stating that mothers who work feel happier about themselves.

Dr. Sylvia Gearing of GearingUP, states

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Of Santa, Wish Lists, and The Desire to Not Be Alone…

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Author, Lori Bryant Woolridge, in her recent article, Dear Santa, All I Want for Christmas, on the Huffington Post lamented her singleness, along with that of other friends and acquaintances who are not in lack an intimate relationship that during the Holidays Season she stated, “…with its emphasis on family traditions, gift exchanges, and togetherness can be tough for single ladies because it’s one of those times of the year (like New Year’s and Valentines) that when being alone can feel pretty lonely.”

She acknowledged that many women like she, had silently, if not openly stated having “…added a man to their Santa wish list.” She then likened the results of this action mixed with the inaction of “…hoping and waiting…” with her attempt to lose weight, both proving ineffective.

I can certainly imagine how a person without a significant other feels lonely, most especially during the Holiday Season.   My husband of nearly 30 year

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Of Parents, The Nativity and The Need for Caution….

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Lori Bryant Woolridge shares in her recent article, “Dear Santa, All I Want for Christmas,” at the Huffington Post, “…the holiday season…with its emphasis on family traditions, gift exchanges, and togetherness can be tough for single ladies because it’s one of those times of the year (like New Year’s and Valentines) that when being alone can feel pretty lonely.”

No more than with single parents is this need to connect and interact with a level of profound togetherness than with the single mother or single father.

In her blog post, Sad Mommy vs. Daughter Wars, Zondra Hughes asks, asks, “…How can we end these wars…mommy vs. daughter wars…a sad reality that continue to plague our families…”

Where does a woman, or man’s, need for companionship and intimacy slide into abandonment of responsibility as a parent when she or he, the mother, or father, enters into relationship with a person who poses threats of physical and emotional harm to the woman or man’s child?

North Carolina courts, sentenced 43 year-old Elisa Baker,

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